Author Archives: moparaventi

The #MeToo friendliness dilemma

An older guy I know on a casual basis asked me for a hug recently – then copped a feel. Or maybe it was an accident. Maybe he inadvertently placed his hands too high up when he hugged me. Either … Continue reading

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What’s your idea of pretty?

I was talking to a college teacher yesterday. As an experiment, she had her students list the attributes of someone who would be considered “pretty.” The consensus they came up with: white, slim and blonde. With big breasts. What’s interesting … Continue reading

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Putting it out there

I’ve got a task for you. I want you to use your smartphone or your computer to make a video of yourself, in order to show the world an amazing, capable, attractive, well-balanced individual WHO JUST HAPPENS TO BE SINGLE. … Continue reading

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What happens to ME?

I see that I’ve neglected this blog. In my defense, I have been writing — just not blog posts. I’ve been working on my book, The New Old Maid: How Happily Unmarried Women are Defying Spinster Stereotypes. I wish I … Continue reading

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Chealsea Handler talks about the “single-bewilderment syndrome”

This was written by Chelsea Handler, actor, comedian and host of Chelsea on Netflix. It appeared in Time magazine. We should laud singledom, not lament it Here I am, a humble single girl trying to make it on my own … Continue reading

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The liberation of my feet

Last night I went to the symphony, which gave me a rare opportunity to dress up. This time – in addition to a fancy outfit and large, glittery earrings, I decided to take the ultimate step. I pulled a pair … Continue reading

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Learning from Millennials

Gender fluidity. Pop-up stores. The gig economy. Heteronormativity. Apps for everything. Feminism 2.0. Bernie Sanders. Millennials are transforming the way things are done, discussed and thought about – sometimes in very good ways, and sometimes in very confusing ways.

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The woman ahead of me WAS me

It had been a long weekend, and an emotionally draining trip to visit a dear cousin who was terribly ill. By the time my plane landed at my home airport, it was late at night. I was exhausted, and tired … Continue reading

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Why losing my job in my late 40s was the best thing that ever happened to me (conclusion)

Where was I? Oh, yes. Unemployed, pushing 50 and living in a state (Michigan) devastated by the recession. Yeah. Good times. And…I was single. I know that married people face crises and challenges, too, but at least they face them … Continue reading

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Why losing my job in my late 40s was the best thing that ever happened to me, Part Two

Where was I? Oh, yes. That’s right. Unemployed, pushing 50, and aged out of the career in which I’d been working for decades (radio). I had what I thought were marketable skills – written and verbal communication skills, for instance … Continue reading

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