Category Archives: Nonfiction

Putting it out there

I’ve got a task for you. I want you to use your smartphone or your computer to make a video of yourself, in order to show the world an amazing, capable, attractive, well-balanced individual WHO JUST HAPPENS TO BE SINGLE. … Continue reading

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Why losing my job in my late 40s was the best thing that ever happened to me, Part One

I can clearly remember being called into the station owner’s office after a show and being told that the station was letting me go as a cost-cutting measure. It felt like I’d been kicked in the stomach. Yes, I knew … Continue reading

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Turns out I was the one who changed

When I started writing my book about women who have never been married, I was hoping to change other people’s attitudes about us. What I didn’t realize was how much the book would change my attitude. I’d always felt like … Continue reading

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A good excuse to shave my legs

So I wrote last time that I was going to a singles dance. I mentioned that my expectations were low, that I thought there’d be a lot more women than men, blah, blah, blah. The upshot was: I did NOT … Continue reading

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Mixed emotions about singles mixers

Are events specifically for singles worth going to? Being a perpetually single woman, that’s a question I’ve been trying to answer for a long time. I’ll try to answer it again on Friday night, when two friends and I will head … Continue reading

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Traveling solo

It seemed like a good idea at the time I made the arrangements. Now, with my (solo) trip to Florida drawing near, I’m not so sure. Every winter, I swear that I’m going to get away from it all, at … Continue reading

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Every felt like a ‘third wheel’?

In a society where the pressure to pair off is relentless, where do single women fit in? Or do they? Are there social events that they’re deliberately left out of, because they are not part of a couple? In talking … Continue reading

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When you don’t have the Mommy gene

One of the common themes that’s emerged among the always single* women that I’ve talked to for my book-in-progress, “The New Old Maid,” is that many of them had no desire to have children. “I never wanted kids,” said Celia. … Continue reading

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Friends – Who Needs ‘Em?

I do, for one. Although I’m perfectly content spending time by myself, I really need my friends, who run the gamut from married, divorced, never-married and getting-ready-to-be-married. We go to plays and movies together; talk, talk, talk (gathering opinions, offering advice, … Continue reading

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Beating ourselves up

“I’m mad so many smart, professionally successful, delightful women beat up on themselves because…they aren’t married or haven’t stayed married or haven’t remarried.” Dr. Karen Lewis, a family therapist, told me what I already knew: that many women blame themselves … Continue reading

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