Tag Archives: #futurespinster
Why losing my job in my late 40s was the best thing that ever happened to me, Part Two
Where was I? Oh, yes. That’s right. Unemployed, pushing 50, and aged out of the career in which I’d been working for decades (radio). I had what I thought were marketable skills – written and verbal communication skills, for instance … Continue reading
Turns out I was the one who changed
When I started writing my book about women who have never been married, I was hoping to change other people’s attitudes about us. What I didn’t realize was how much the book would change my attitude. I’d always felt like … Continue reading
A good excuse to shave my legs
So I wrote last time that I was going to a singles dance. I mentioned that my expectations were low, that I thought there’d be a lot more women than men, blah, blah, blah. The upshot was: I did NOT … Continue reading
Mixed emotions about singles mixers
Are events specifically for singles worth going to? Being a perpetually single woman, that’s a question I’ve been trying to answer for a long time. I’ll try to answer it again on Friday night, when two friends and I will head … Continue reading
What if?
I have a writer’s “what if” mind. That can be a wonderfully rich, imaginative and entertaining thing. It can also be hell, especially for a single woman. I’ll explain. One of the foundations of fiction is that a story begins … Continue reading
Traveling solo
It seemed like a good idea at the time I made the arrangements. Now, with my (solo) trip to Florida drawing near, I’m not so sure. Every winter, I swear that I’m going to get away from it all, at … Continue reading
Every felt like a ‘third wheel’?
In a society where the pressure to pair off is relentless, where do single women fit in? Or do they? Are there social events that they’re deliberately left out of, because they are not part of a couple? In talking … Continue reading
When you don’t have the Mommy gene
One of the common themes that’s emerged among the always single* women that I’ve talked to for my book-in-progress, “The New Old Maid,” is that many of them had no desire to have children. “I never wanted kids,” said Celia. … Continue reading
Friends – Who Needs ‘Em?
I do, for one. Although I’m perfectly content spending time by myself, I really need my friends, who run the gamut from married, divorced, never-married and getting-ready-to-be-married. We go to plays and movies together; talk, talk, talk (gathering opinions, offering advice, … Continue reading
Beating ourselves up
“I’m mad so many smart, professionally successful, delightful women beat up on themselves because…they aren’t married or haven’t stayed married or haven’t remarried.” Dr. Karen Lewis, a family therapist, told me what I already knew: that many women blame themselves … Continue reading
